Bully(n.): a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker. We all know what a bully is. We have been told to take action and stand up to the bully. However, I was never taught why this person acts this way. Why does the bully feel the need to treat others in such a cruel way?
First, I look at the definition of a bully, and notice that the first phrase is “a person.” A bully is simply a person. Every person in the whole wide world is constantly making mistakes, learning, and growing. Any person in the whole wide world could be a bully. I believe that even bullies make mistakes, learn, and grow.
Next, I look at the phrase, “uses strength or power.” In my 16 years of being on this planet, I have learned from history that having strength and power is a privilege. My country has fought long and hard for the freedom to become stronger and for us to feel powerful as an individual. I respect people who have the confidence to use their strength and power. People who use these privileges can live happy, successful lives while encouraging others to do the same. However, not everyone uses these rights to support one another’s success.
Now, I read the words “to harm or intimidate.” I have realized that this is the point at which a person becomes a bully. This is also where I ask myself, “Is this person really bullying me, or just messing around?” It can be hard to tell the difference between the two scenarios. Bullying feels different to everyone, but the one thing we can all agree separates “bullying” from “joking around” is the repetition. It is considered bullying when one person is cruel to another day after day, even when asked to stop.
The last phrase in the definition is “those who are weaker.” This is ironic, because in reality the victim isn’t at all weaker. The bully is making them believe that they are weaker and at a disadvantage. Of course, there is a possibility that the bully could be stronger than the victim physically. However, the victim is just as strong as the bully mentally. If he/she is just as strong, why does the victim believe the lies that are being told? The repetition is what causes the brain to get used to the idea that the bully is better and stronger.
Even though bullies have bad intentions, maybe we are more similar than previously believed. Bullies are people, too. They deserve respect just like everyone else. Next time you start to believe the crazy things the bully is telling you, remember that you are equal, and you both have the same rights.
Bully(n.): a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker. After revisiting the topic of bullying, I have a better general understanding of bullying and what it really means. Bullies can learn, grow, and change. Bullies can live happy, successful lives. They just might need a little sympathy and help from those around them.
Chloe Janovsky is a junior at Bowman County High School.
